Great post Shaun…you continue to open me to possibility. I’ve always lived with an inability to speak my desires, feelings and needs…due to the fear of being too much or more likely rejection. These are enormous steps for me…I guess practice is required now. 🦋
'I didn't want to appear needy or desperate, even though I felt both.'
I didn't think guys felt like this, which I know is a really, really dumb thing to say.
You give voice and normalize so much of what we are all feeling and thinking as we navigate dating (and especially, dating in our 40s). Already looking forward to your next entry.
I’ve been asking my boyfriend for more non sexual touch. He says he wants to but wasn’t raised in a touchy feely environment so it doesn’t come natural. I love the idea of picking one way he could focus on to meet that need for me.
Asking for what I want/need from a partner (or anyone) is something I really struggle with-still. I especially appreciate your sample scripts. Super helpful. And the rephrase from “I need you to….” (ick. Cringy, right?) to “I’d love it if…”
Great post Shaun…you continue to open me to possibility. I’ve always lived with an inability to speak my desires, feelings and needs…due to the fear of being too much or more likely rejection. These are enormous steps for me…I guess practice is required now. 🦋
This is so timely. Thank you
You're so welcome! What will you be asking for?
The type of relationship I want. Crystal clear clarity
Yes. Love that.
And it worked. First time I’ve ever really asked for what I wanted.
ARE YOU KIDDING THAT'S AMAZING. Congrats.
'I didn't want to appear needy or desperate, even though I felt both.'
I didn't think guys felt like this, which I know is a really, really dumb thing to say.
You give voice and normalize so much of what we are all feeling and thinking as we navigate dating (and especially, dating in our 40s). Already looking forward to your next entry.
I’ve been asking my boyfriend for more non sexual touch. He says he wants to but wasn’t raised in a touchy feely environment so it doesn’t come natural. I love the idea of picking one way he could focus on to meet that need for me.
Asking for what I want/need from a partner (or anyone) is something I really struggle with-still. I especially appreciate your sample scripts. Super helpful. And the rephrase from “I need you to….” (ick. Cringy, right?) to “I’d love it if…”
PURE GOLD. Thank you, Shaun.