I’d pay way more than $8 a month to follow you along your next path in life and get some crazy good love advice to my shitty love life. I wish you absolutely nothing but the best in this thing we call life. ♥️
Congrats to you on your recent move, leaning into uncertainty and much more that I’m not privy to. ;)
Curious, and I say this with love, why do you refer to your audience as “dude”? As a gal that grew up with brothers, cultivated close relationships with guy friends, I’m not trying to go all PC on you. Just curious :)
Oh, and love your choice in cities. Born & raised in ATX and spent lots of time in Boulder, Flagstaff & Canada. 🤘🏽
Oh, it’s just a thing I used to say when I was modeling how to say things to their love/crush/partner, and I would always start my sentence with “My dude, I like you, etc…” and it just kinda stuck. I’m using dude in a non-gendered way here.
Hi Shaun! Good to stumble on your work here. I have to say, the fact that you can verbalize all of this and have language to speak about it...
"It's probably a mix of continuing to uncover and heal childhood trauma, experiencing fomo with everything in life, some mild fear of intimacy and commitment, and an insecure attachment style that presents as avoidant but is most probably a mix of ambivalent/disorganized with some solid and secure traits, according to my therapist."
...is a huge green flag to me. :-) Being a self-aware dude (this time, using it gendered) & able to be speak vulnerably and openly about one's experiences is still a pretty rare, unicorn trait amongst men (and ok, still amongst many humans) out there. I'll take the self-aware man who has done his work & knows he has some issues/past traumas every day of the week over the unaware/not in the least bit curious or introspective guy who has no interest in growing. What are we doing on this planet if not to unpack and learn about ourselves? And then to continue that growth with other humans in relationship, be it friendship or romantic.
I, too, am "living in transition," though I've taken to calling this phase my "7th inning stretch in life" - a time to figure out what was next, to allow space in my days and enough roominess to explore my curiosities, instead of pivoting to another "j-o-b job" that might offer me financial security, but would suck my soul away. (See 15 years in corporate America. I walked away in Dec 2021 and have been living in the liminal space since then.) I trust the evolution of my life, so I'm continuing to follow what feels like a power greater than myself (I like to call it "the Universe") that is pulling me forward and my job is to walk the path, one step at a time. It's always exciting to me to find other humans out there living in this way, so thank you for living in transition.
Wait, are you stealing my journey?! So much of what you described about yourself is so relatable. Mostly "the book in you" sentiment hits right now. I have a book in me too. Maybe a few if I'm lucky. I've been working on one for a bit about the ripple effect of life and the circumstances we are all born into with no say or control and yet it shapes our future path. Looking forward to hearing about your book in the future!
Can relate… And also in the midst of believing I can call myself a writer. Doing it consistently helps and there’s bravery in going after something we feel called to. Hope you uncover your book.
I’d pay way more than $8 a month to follow you along your next path in life and get some crazy good love advice to my shitty love life. I wish you absolutely nothing but the best in this thing we call life. ♥️
Thank you Katie, your support means the world so me and I'll try to help your shitty love life as much as I can!
Congrats to you on your recent move, leaning into uncertainty and much more that I’m not privy to. ;)
Curious, and I say this with love, why do you refer to your audience as “dude”? As a gal that grew up with brothers, cultivated close relationships with guy friends, I’m not trying to go all PC on you. Just curious :)
Oh, and love your choice in cities. Born & raised in ATX and spent lots of time in Boulder, Flagstaff & Canada. 🤘🏽
Oh, it’s just a thing I used to say when I was modeling how to say things to their love/crush/partner, and I would always start my sentence with “My dude, I like you, etc…” and it just kinda stuck. I’m using dude in a non-gendered way here.
Hi Shaun! Good to stumble on your work here. I have to say, the fact that you can verbalize all of this and have language to speak about it...
"It's probably a mix of continuing to uncover and heal childhood trauma, experiencing fomo with everything in life, some mild fear of intimacy and commitment, and an insecure attachment style that presents as avoidant but is most probably a mix of ambivalent/disorganized with some solid and secure traits, according to my therapist."
...is a huge green flag to me. :-) Being a self-aware dude (this time, using it gendered) & able to be speak vulnerably and openly about one's experiences is still a pretty rare, unicorn trait amongst men (and ok, still amongst many humans) out there. I'll take the self-aware man who has done his work & knows he has some issues/past traumas every day of the week over the unaware/not in the least bit curious or introspective guy who has no interest in growing. What are we doing on this planet if not to unpack and learn about ourselves? And then to continue that growth with other humans in relationship, be it friendship or romantic.
I, too, am "living in transition," though I've taken to calling this phase my "7th inning stretch in life" - a time to figure out what was next, to allow space in my days and enough roominess to explore my curiosities, instead of pivoting to another "j-o-b job" that might offer me financial security, but would suck my soul away. (See 15 years in corporate America. I walked away in Dec 2021 and have been living in the liminal space since then.) I trust the evolution of my life, so I'm continuing to follow what feels like a power greater than myself (I like to call it "the Universe") that is pulling me forward and my job is to walk the path, one step at a time. It's always exciting to me to find other humans out there living in this way, so thank you for living in transition.
Wait, are you stealing my journey?! So much of what you described about yourself is so relatable. Mostly "the book in you" sentiment hits right now. I have a book in me too. Maybe a few if I'm lucky. I've been working on one for a bit about the ripple effect of life and the circumstances we are all born into with no say or control and yet it shapes our future path. Looking forward to hearing about your book in the future!
Can relate… And also in the midst of believing I can call myself a writer. Doing it consistently helps and there’s bravery in going after something we feel called to. Hope you uncover your book.
Thank you Alejandra. I joke with my friend that, "If I don't write, it won't get written." Let's write.