Ten things I look for in a partner

AKA ten things I want to love about you

People often ask me what I look for in a partner, so I put this list together in no particular order.

Some of these are cliched as fuck, but what are you gonna do? We're more alike than we want to admit.

One. A sense of humor.

So, either you're funny or laugh at my jokes—ideally, both. I want to laugh a lot. I want laughter and making jokes to be how we spend time together. Making you laugh will make me laugh, which is excellent, and while I've always been the funny one in the relationship, it would be nice for you to make me laugh, too.

Two. Presence.

I need to feel you present, engaged, and available—not all the time, but most of the time. We all need downtime and time to check out now and then, but I want you to track me as much as I do. Let's be aware and attuned to the space we share. Whether we're playing cards, having sex, or making dinner together, we're present to ourselves and each other.

Three. Sex kitten.